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I know, it’s insane, but I have decided to give away ONE spot in the next Empowered Attraction group coaching program. This is an awesome opportunity, but you have to act fast! (scroll to the bottom to find out how to qualify)
**WARNING** This post is highly informational and promotional, but I have to tell you what’s going on!
July 13th is our next free call in the Sabatini Single Series. I will be sharing some powerful secrets about being yourself and opening up without putting yourself out there to get hurt.
On that call, one lucky lady will win this spot in the Empowered Attraction Group Coaching Program! This is a ten week class over the phone that will help you find a lasting, loving relationship that actually enhances your life.
• Maybe it’s been a while since you’ve been on the dating scene, and the thought of getting out there is overwhelming.
• Maybe you’ve been shopping around for the right guy for a while, but are feeling stuck on a treadmill of unfulfilling relationships.
The truth is that relationships between men and women have changed quite a bit in the last 50 years. The old rules no longer apply.
Through the ten week EMPOWERED ATTRACTION program, I will provide you with immense support and guidance as you learn how to find and receive love that energizes and fuels all areas of your life.
All Classes are over the phone Tuesday evenings starting August 17th
As part of the Empowered Attraction program, you get:
• ten 75 minute group calls on empowered relationship stuff
• 3 one-on-one sessions with Jessica
• The Empowered Attraction Workbook
• Access to the Private page of downloads and recordings
• CD of dating advice and meditations
Regular Price : $897
But, you could win your spot by doing the following…
In order to qualify, you must be registered for the July 13th call,
Being Authentic on a Date: How to Open Up
Without Hanging a Sign Saying “Hurt Me Here”
DATE: Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
TIME: 9 pm Eastern, 6 pm Pacific
You also need to fill out the following survey with your name (so I know you’re interested in qualifying) and be live on the call so you can squeal with delight.
http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/TDLDTL7
It’s as easy as that. The lucky winner could be you!
It’s time to step into your power and attract a relationship that makes your life wonderful!
Looking forward to “seeing” you on the call! And, as always, if you have any questions, you can contact me anytime at jessica@the360woman.com
Hot Wishes,
Jessica Sabatini
www.the360woman.com
 I love the idea of attaching something productive with something you already do that you may feel some guilt around. I have a client who could never seem to make time to say these wonderful affirmations she had written. She also wanted to stop feeling guilty about taking insanely long showers.
So, she bought herself some bathtub crayons (you get them in the baby section) and began writing her affirmations on the shower wall while cleaning up for the day. She began to notice fantastic insights and ideas coming to her in the shower, and she had a great way of writing them down.  Decorative, fun, and productive!
I have a recent example from my own life. My husband is taking a class on prayer and blessing. He comes home and tells me all about it, during which time I think about how there’s no way I can find a peaceful moment to squeeze something like prayer into my life. But, I do have a guilty pleasure of doing Sudoku whenever there is a quiet moment. I have books of them. (I’m also a big logic puzzle addict.)
So, I decided to assign a meaning to each number in the box. I get nine. I listed my business, my home, important people and communities, and so on. Now, when I am solving the puzzle, using the meaning of whatever number I’m working on, I say thanks and offer blessings to that particular aspect of my life. Not only am I finding a way to fit prayer into my life, I’m  also cruising through the “Very Hard” puzzles with total ease and grace.
If you notice, in both of these examples, not only did we find a way to make time for positive intentions, we also found away to relieve guilt from indulging in a daily activity. Killing two birds with one stone. That’s what I call effective multitasking. Now it’s time to apply this to you.
Take a moment to think about what you know you need to make time for in your life: affirmations, prayer, gratitude, intention, visioning, breathing. Now, how can you attach that activity to something you already do every day? Something menial that you barely think about or that you feel guilty for indulging in?
Set up a reminder to get you started. It only takes three weeks of integrating activities to establish your new habit. Just think, you are less than a month away from having positive thinking being a natural part of your daily life.
Let me know how you multitask in your life. Email Jessica Sabatini from www.the360woman at jessica@the360woman.com
 I’ve often heard that it’s a good idea to make a detailed description of what you are looking for in a partner. However, I’d like to suggest that you get clear on what you are looking for in a partnership not just the man. This can allow you to let go of the superficial details of a potential partner and move on to what is created when the two of you get together.
Before I found my husband, I had a list and a pretty good picture in mind of the kind of guy I wanted to be with for the rest of my life. I would meet and even date many guys who matched this description. But, the relationships never went anywhere (at least not anywhere I wanted to be), and I was left feeling unsatisfied and alone.
 Then one day I decided to focus on the kind of relationship I really wanted versus the guy himself. Once I got a clear picture, I was able to pass up guys who made my heart beat fast, but were not interested in the relationship I had in mind. And, when the perfect fit did appear, I was able to identify him and say “Yes” when he asked me to grab some coffee.
You can have a lasting partnership where you feel free to be yourself, or you can have a few wild nights filled with passion, presents, or whatever you think you want in a relationship. Just remember that it is a relationship between two people, and that finding a person who meets a list of criteria is not a guarantee that the relationship you want will follow.
As the old saying goes, be careful what you ask for because you just might get it. So, take a moment and put some thought into what you really want in an ideal relationship, not just the man.
Want more insight to using the Universe to bring you real love? Check out Empowered Attraction.
Another useful tidbit from Jessica Sabatini and The 360 Woman
Feel free to contact Jessica any time at jessica@the360woman.com
Take one overworked woman and ask her to make time to set intentions and do affirmations, and she just might bite your head off. There is so much buzz going around about how bad multitasking is and how we need to focus on doing one single thing at a time, but for many of us, that is simply too much to ask.
Yes, yes, there are actions that do require undivided attention, like writing this article or performing surgery. However, if you have a home, a family, a career, a fitness routine, and some friends and interests, combining activities may be the most effective way for you to add to the mix.
We all know how powerful setting intentions, stating affirmations, and expressing gratitude can be. So, how can you fit them into your already overloaded schedule in a way that you can sustain for years to come? I suggest adding positive thinking and affirmations to something you already do habitually like brushing your teeth. Let me give you some examples that may stir up ways for you to combine activities in your life.
One of my clients was trying to fit in some positive thinking into her daily life and trying to stop using her snooze button. After a couple of months of still hitting snooze twice every morning, she decided to combine some activities here.
So, now she hits snooze once, and spends ten minutes listing all that she is grateful for in her life. Then she hits snooze again, and thinks about her intentions for the day and takes some deep breaths. What a great way to stop beating herself up for hitting snooze and fit in some positive thinking!
Another useful tidbit from Jessica Sabatini and The 360 Woman
Got Questions? Feel free to contact Jessica anytime at jessica@the360woman.com
A few years back, I made a very conscious decision to look for a husband. As part of my journey, I interviewed couples that I perceived to be happily married. The “happily married” part was based purely on my opinion. No scientific data was accumulated to rate them on a happiness scale. But, I noticed how they treated each other and whether or not each individual seemed to continue to develop after saying “I do,” and they had to be married for at least 10 years. (I also interviewed couples that did not seem happily married, but that’s for another post.)
I focused my questions on what the clues were before they were engaged that let them know this may be a good match. After interviewing nearly three dozen “happily married” couples, a pattern began to emerge that could easily be broken down into three key ingredients in knowing this may be a good spouse for you. It is those ingredients I am going to share with you today.
First and foremost, you must be attracted to this person. Everyone agreed on that one. If you are going to swear to only have sex with one person for the rest of your life, you better be attracted to them. Now, with some of the couples the attraction was immediate; the “Oh yeah, baby, what I’d like to do to you” response. For others, the attraction grew over time. Maybe the wife barely noticed her husband for the first few months of knowing him, but once some more personal conversation was going on, she began to see an adorable aspect to the man.
 The second ingredient is so obvious, we often discount it: the two of you must have fun together. I’m not saying every second needs to be an amusement park, but notice your general mood and feelings when you’re with a potential mate. We all know someone (and have been this person) who is in a relationship where it seems every moment together is struggle, torment, drama. When we ask, “Why do you stay with him?” we get the ever faithful answer, “Because I love him.” While love is nice, if you are thinking about spending day and night with someone for many years to come, fun is much more enjoyable.
The third ingredient is having a feeling that you both are moving in the same direction. So, if you are attracted to a guy and have fun with him, but he plans to travel around Africa doing medical research for the next 15 years and you are hoping to pursue a career in corporate America and start a family, this may not be a good long term commitment. This can be a tricky one to decipher. Notice at what phase in life each of you are. Ask questions about long term goals and dreams. If they seem in line with what you are hoping for in your life, that’s great. If they would take you far off course, this relationship may be not the best in the long run.
In all my interviews, I was amazed that the word love almost never came up. Not that love isn’t important, but we have the ability to love all sorts of people in all sorts of situations. Love takes many forms; it grows and fades like the tides of the ocean. It’s important to have some other foundation for your relationship in times when the love meter dips below the cherish line. These ingredients can give you something to step back and look at when trying to figure out if this is indeed “the one.” So, get out there with a bit more focus. You now have clear criteria as far as the key ingredients to a potential mate.
Want to bring a loving, lasting relationship into your life? Check out Empowered Attraction.
Jessica Sabatini
www.the360woman.com
jessica@the360woman.com
 It seems so long ago that it was acceptable to discount a woman’s worth in business just for the fact that she was a woman. Although there was a time when comments like, “She doesn’t know how to write a report, she’s just a woman,” and “What does a woman know about finances?” were common place, recent advancements in human behavior has pulled an entire generation away from such language. Or, has it pulled us too far in the other direction.
Recently I was at a master mind meeting with a bunch of coaches, and was appalled by some pretty harsh reverse sexism. This group is coed, with one fairly strong female who makes an effort to educate all men about unsexing their language. Like using the term salesperson instead of salesman, or saying ladies and gents in place of “Hey guys!” She seems so PC, I was taken off guard when sexist statements started coming from her mouth.
The most significant was when one man was sharing about a video he had written that was performed by a woman. He said, “I really tried to think like a woman.” Then our PC mascot replies with, “You mean you tried to think?”  Now if we were all hanging out having a drink, that comment would have been pretty funny. I would have laughed. But this was a business setting, and it was coming from the mouth of our proclaimed anti-sexism activist.
I’m not a man, (obviously) but I was truly offended by this statement. Hey Ladies, you gotta give what you want to receive! It’s not fair to demand a certain level of behavior from others and then use that lower level behavior to chide them. Not every man you meet is to blame for the oppression of women, the glass ceiling, genital mutilation, or date rape. In fact, most men these days, especially in business, seem quite welcoming of the female presence.
Remember, if you want men to like you, you must like them. So, give a brother a break! Pick one guy in your life (or one you just happen to come by) and tell him something you admire or appreciate about him today! Who knows, it might feel so good; you might start forgiving you dad for not teaching you how to play football. Or, this unexpecting man might tell you something he admires or appreciates about you in return. Either way, positive man talk will only bring good things.
Jessica Sabatini
www.The360Woman.com
jessica@the360woman.com
 Me and My Man The short answer: At work.
The whole story: In 2003, my heart was torn into a million pieces. I had fallen in love with what I thought was “The One”, only to discover that this guy had no problem hurting me and moving on without looking back. In the midst of this dark despair, I made a very conscious decision to find a life mate. I was tired of being alone, so I began my journey of looking for a husband.
Funnily enough, I happened to meet my husband they day after I made this decision, but was not yet ready to see the possibility of being in a relationship with him. (Although my first thought about him was quite dirty, if you know what I mean) I was too broken and too pissed at the entire male gender to get involved with anyone.
Over the next 10 months, my journey to finding my life partner was threefold:
First, I had to address my pain and anger and find healing so that I could be a complete person and bring the best me to the relationship. There was looking at past relationships and owning my part in allowing myself to be treated in ways that tore me down instead of building me up. There was a lot of forgiveness for me and the men in my life, and finally a place of acceptance and confidence about who I truly was, not who I thought I should be.
Secondly, I had to get very clear on what kind of relationship would actually enhance my life. I’m not talking about a list of qualities in the man, but what the relationship itself would look like. For me, this involved adventurous eating, deep philosophical conversation on a daily basis, an openness to raising our children outside of the mainstream, and an unyielding sense of support for both of us to go after our dreams.
The third factor on this journey was getting out there, taking risks, and being willing to do things differently. The way I had been doing things had not led me to my soul mate, so it was time for something new. I had a date with an Alaskan fisherman who had come to NYC in pursuit of a wife. I began writing letters with a guy in Wyoming who was feeling ready for marriage. I went off to LA to look up past boyfriends to see if one of them could be “the one”.
All this time, I’m working with the man who eventually became my husband. We were part of the same social crowd, so would be at the same bar after work and go to some events with the same group. One day, a bunch of us were at the beach, and my now husband reached out and touched my belly button! It was like electric sparks all over my body. I was totally taken aback.
The next day, I told a friend what had happened, and this friend suggested that I go out with Rodolfo. I responded with, “I can’t date Rodolfo! We are really good friends and we always have a good time and he really supports me and we both encourage each other to go after our dreams…” at which point my friend interrupted and said (profanity warning), “So, are you looking for the asshole who treats you like shit?”
I went straight home and called Rodolfo and asked him out. By the end of our first date, it was clear that we would probably get married. He fit in remarkably to the vision I had of an ideal relationship. We immediately became the most important person in eachothers’ lives. We dated for about a year, lived together for about a year, were engaged for about a year, then got married, moved to NC, bought a house and had a baby all within one year! Whew!
 It is love. People often ask us how we do it, how we can be so happy together. The main thing is that we realize that having a fulfilling relationship is not all sunshine and roses. It’s having tough conversations, saying things that you don’t want to say, facing aspects about yourself you wished you never had to face. It’s about being authentic, honest, open, willing to make mistakes, willing to put the work in, and willing to let someone love you and see the beauty inside of you.
Learn how to apply all that I learned to your life and meet your perfect guy. Check out Empowered Attraction.
Jessica Sabatini
www.The360Woman.com
jessica@the360woman.com
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Most of my life, I enjoyed considering myself a lone wolf. There was something romantic about not needing anyone else. Perhaps it was ego or a superiority complex, but I took such pride in taking care of myself and accomplishing all of my achievements on my own. This time in my life can also be described as full of struggle, lack, frustration, and working myself ragged.
The image of a garden keeps coming to mind. The juicy fruit, nutritious vegetables, and beautiful flowers are the positive relationships, and the weeds, rocks, and litter represent the negative ones. 
